146. Egocentricity, Pride or Jealousy of Women

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1- عِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ خَالِدٍ عَنْ عُثْمَانَ بْنِ عِيسَى عَنْ بَعْضِ أَصْحَابِهِ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ لَيْسَ الْغَيْرَةُ إِلا لِلرِّجَالِ وَأَمَّا النِّسَاءُ فَإِنَّمَا ذَلِكَ مِنْهُنَّ حَسَدٌ وَالْغَيْرَةُ لِلرِّجَالِ وَلِذَلِكَ حَرَّمَ اللهُ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ إِلا زَوْجَهَا وَأَحَلَّ لِلرِّجَالِ أَرْبَعاً وَإِنَّ اللهَ أَكْرَمُ أَنْ يَبْتَلِيَهُنَّ بِالْغَيْرَةِ وَيُحِلَّ لِلرِّجَالِ مَعَهَا ثَلاثاً.


1. A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from ibn Khalid from ‘Uthman ibn ‘Isa from certain persons of his people who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said, ‘Pride is with men only and with women it is jealousy. Vanity is with men and for this reason Allah has prohibited women except to have one husband and for men He has made up to four (wives) lawful. Allah is most gracious. He does not place vanity and pride in them (women) then make three more with her lawful for him/”


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2- عَنْهُ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَلِيٍّ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْفُضَيْلِ عَنْ سَعْدِ بْنِ الْجَلابِ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ إِنَّ اللهَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ لَمْ يَجْعَلِ الْغَيْرَةَ لِلنِّسَاءِ وَإِنَّمَا تَغَارُ الْمُنْكِرَاتُ مِنْهُنَّ فَأَمَّا الْمُؤْمِنَاتُ فَلا إِنَّمَا جَعَلَ اللهُ الْغَيْرَةَ لِلرِّجَالِ لأنَّهُ أَحَلَّ لِلرَّجُلِ أَرْبَعاً وَمَا مَلَكَتْ يَمِينُهُ وَلَمْ يَجْعَلْ لِلْمَرْأَةِ إِلا زَوْجَهَا فَإِذَا أَرَادَتْ مَعَهُ غَيْرَهُ كَانَتْ عِنْدَ اللهِ زَانِيَةً. قَالَ وَرَوَاهُ الْقَاسِمُ بْنُ يَحْيَى عَنْ جَدِّهِ الْحَسَنِ بْنِ رَاشِدٍ عَنْ أَبِي بَكْرٍ الْحَضْرَمِيِّ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) إِلا أَنَّهُ قَالَ فَإِنْ بَغَتْ مَعَهُ غَيْرَهُ.


2. It is narrated from the narrator of the previous Hadith from Muhammad ibn Ali from Muhammad ibn al-Fudayl from Sa‘d al-Jallab who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said, ‘Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, has not placed pride in women. Such feeling comes from detested ones among them; however, the believing ones of them are free of pride. Allah has placed pride in men; He has made lawful for men up to four and those whom they own (slaves). For women He has made only their husband so if she wants more besides him she is a fornicator before Allah.’ He (the narrator) has said that al-Qasim ibn Yahya has narrated from his grandfather al-Hassan ibn Rashid from abu Bakr al-Hadramiy from abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, except that he has said, ‘Baghat’ (sought) instead of ‘Aradat’ (wanted).”


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3- عَلِيُّ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ عَنِ الْفَضْلِ بْنِ شَاذَانَ جَمِيعاً عَنِ ابْنِ أَبِي عُمَيْرٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ الْحَجَّاجِ رَفَعَهُ قَالَ بَيْنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) قَاعِدٌ إِذْ جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ عُرْيَانَةٌ حَتَّى قَامَتْ بَيْنَ يَدَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ إِنِّي فَجَرْتُ فَطَهِّرْنِي قَالَ وَجَاءَ رَجُلٌ يَعْدُو فِي أَثَرِهَا وَأَلْقَى عَلَيْهَا ثَوْباً فَقَالَ مَا هِيَ مِنْكَ فَقَالَ صَاحِبَتِي يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ خَلَوْتُ بِجَارِيَتِي فَصَنَعَتْ مَا تَرَى فَقَالَ ضُمَّهَا إِلَيْكَ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنَّ الْغَيْرَاءَ لا تُبْصِرُ أَعْلَى الْوَادِي مِنْ أَسْفَلِهِ.


3. Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father Muhammad ibn ‘Isma’il has narrated from al-Fadl ibn Shadhan from all from ibn abu ‘Umayr from ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn al-Hajjaj in a marfu’ manner has said the following: “Once the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, was sitting that a nude woman came until she stood right in front of him and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, I have sinned, so cleanse me.’ He (the narrator) has said that after her a man came running and threw a cloth on her. He (the Messenger of Allah) asked about the relation between the two of them.’ He replied, ‘She is my companion (wife), O Messenger of Allah. I went to bed with my slave-girl, and then she did what you have seen.’ He (the Messenger of Allah) then said, ‘The egotistic, or jealous cannot distinguish between the top and the bottom of the valley.’”


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4- عِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْحَسَنِ عَنْ يُوسُفَ بْنِ حَمَّادٍ عَمَّنْ ذَكَرَهُ عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ قَالَ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) غَيْرَةُ النِّسَاءِ الْحَسَدُ وَالْحَسَدُ هُوَ أَصْلُ الْكُفْرِ إِنَّ النِّسَاءَ إِذَا غِرْنَ غَضِبْنَ وَإِذَا غَضِبْنَ كَفَرْنَ إِلا الْمُسْلِمَاتُ مِنْهُنَّ.


4. A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn abu ‘Abd Allah from Muhammad ibn al-Hassan from Yusuf ibn Hammad from those whom he has mentioned from Jabir who has said the following: “Abu Ja‘far, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said, ‘Pride of women is jealousy and jealousy is the root of disbelief. When women become jealous they become angry and when they become angry they disbelieve except the Muslim ones among them.’”


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5- عَنْهُ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سِنَانٍ عَنْ خَالِدٍ الْقَلانِسِيِّ قَالَ ذَكَرَ رَجُلٌ لأبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) امْرَأَتَهُ فَأَحْسَنَ عَلَيْهَا الثَّنَاءَ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) أَغَرْتَهَا قَالَ لا قَالَ فَأَغِرْهَا فَأَغَارَهَا فَثَبَتَتْ فَقَالَ لأبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) إِنِّي قَدْ أَغَرْتُهَا فَثَبَتَتْ فَقَالَ هِيَ كَمَا تَقُولُ.


5. It is narrated from the narrator of the previous Hadith from Muhammad ibn Sinan from Khalid al-Qalanisiy who has said the following: “Once a man mentioned his wife before abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, and he praised her quite well. Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, asked, ‘Have you made her jealous?’ He replied, ‘No, I have not done so.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘Make her feel jealous.’ He did so and he found the proof; then said to abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, that he has found the proof and she is as he (the Imam) has said.’”


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6- أَبُو عَلِيٍّ الأشْعَرِيُّ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الْجَبَّارِ عَنْ صَفْوَانَ عَنْ إِسْحَاقَ بْنِ عَمَّارٍ قَالَ قُلْتُ لأبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) الْمَرْأَةُ تَغَارُ عَلَى الرَّجُلِ تُؤْذِيهِ قَالَ ذَلِكَ مِنَ الْحُبِّ.


6. Abu Ali al-Ash’ariy has narrated from Muhammad ibn ‘Abd al-Jabbar from Safwan from Ishaq ibn ‘Ammar who has said the following: “I once said to abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, ‘When a woman feels jealous against man, she causes disappointment for him.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘It is because of (her) love/”


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