3. Kinds of Women

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1- عَلِيُّ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنِ النَّوْفَلِيِّ عَنِ السَّكُونِيِّ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) أَوْ قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) النِّسَاءُ أَرْبَعٌ جَامِعٌ مُجْمِعٌ وَرَبِيعٌ مُرْبِعٌ وَكَرْبٌ مُقْمِعٌ وَغُلٌّ قَمِلٌ.


1. Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father from af-Nawfafiy from af-Sakuniy who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, or ‘Amir al- Mu’minin has said, ‘Women are of four kinds: a universal goodness, a fountain of breeding, an oppressive over-burdening or feed for parasites.”’


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Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi: ضعيف على المشهور - Mir‘at al ‘Uqul Fi Sharh Akhbar Al al Rasul (0/8)



2- عِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ زِيَادٍ عَنْ عَلِيِّ بْنِ أَسْبَاطٍ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الصَّبَّاحِ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ الْحَجَّاجِ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ مُصْعَبٍ الزُّبَيْرِيِّ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا الْحَسَنِ مُوسَى بْنَ جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِما السَّلام) وَجَلَسْنَا إِلَيْهِ فِي مَسْجِدِ رَسُولِ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) فَتَذَاكَرْنَا أَمْرَ النِّسَاءِ فَأَكْثَرْنَا الْخَوْضَ وَهُوَ سَاكِتٌ لا يَدْخُلُ فِي حَدِيثِنَا بِحَرْفٍ فَلَمَّا سَكَتْنَا قَالَ أَمَّا الْحَرَائِرُ فَلا تَذْكُرُوهُنَّ وَلَكِنْ خَيْرُ الْجَوَارِي مَا كَانَ لَكَ فِيهَا هَوًى وَكَانَ لَهَا عَقْلٌ وَأَدَبٌ فَلَسْتَ تَحْتَاجُ إِلَى أَنْ تَأْمُرَ وَلا تَنْهَى وَدُونَ ذَلِكَ مَا كَانَ لَكَ فِيهَا هَوًى وَلَيْسَ لَهَا أَدَبٌ فَأَنْتَ تَحْتَاجُ إِلَى الأمْرِ وَالنَّهْيِ وَدُونَهَا مَا كَانَ لَكَ فِيهَا هَوًى وَلَيْسَ لَهَا عَقْلٌ وَلا أَدَبٌ فَتَصْبِرُ عَلَيْهَا لِمَكَانِ هَوَاكَ فِيهَا وَجَارِيَةٌ لَيْسَ لَكَ فِيهَا هَوًى وَلَيْسَ لَهَا عَقْلٌ وَلا أَدَبٌ فَتَجْعَلُ فِيمَا بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهَا الْبَحْرَ الأخْضَرَ قَالَ فَأَخَذْتُ بِلِحْيَتِي أُرِيدُ أَنْ أُضْرِطَ فِيهَا لِكَثْرَةِ خَوْضِنَا لِمَا لَمْ نَقُمْ فِيهِ عَلَى شَيْ‏ءٍ وَلِجَمْعِهِ الْكَلامَ فَقَالَ لِي مَهْ إِنْ فَعَلْتَ لَمْ أُجَالِسْكَ.


2. A number of our people have narrated from Sahl ibn Ziyad from Ali ibn Asbat from Muhammad ibn al-Sabbah from ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn al-Hajjaj from ‘Abd Allah ibn Mus’ab al-Zubayriy who has said the following: “I once I heard abu al-Hassan, Musa ibn Ja‘far, ‘Alayhi al-Salam - while we were sitting in the Masjid of the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause - discussing issues about women and we delved in it a great deal but he (the Imam) was quiet and did not enter in our discussion not even with one word; but when we became quiet then I heard him (the Imam) saying, ‘As far as free ones are concerned you must not speak about them, however, the best slave-girl is one whom you love, who has power of reason and moral discipline so you do not need to command or prohibit. Next to this is the one whom you love but does not have moral discipline and you need to command and prohibit. Next to this is the one whom you love but who does not have the power of reason and moral discipline and you have to exercise patience because of your love. Next to this is the slave-girl whom you do not love, she does not have the power of reason or moral discipline and you keep between yourself and her, the green ocean.’ He (the narrator) has said, ‘I then held my beard and wanted to make the sound of loud flatus because of our so much delving and without reaching any meaningful point and for his comprehensive words. He (the Imam) said, ‘Hold it, if you did it I will not sit with you.’”


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Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi: ضعيف - Mir‘at al ‘Uqul Fi Sharh Akhbar Al al Rasul (0/8)



3- عِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ زِيَادٍ وَأَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ جَمِيعاً عَنِ ابْنِ مَحْبُوبٍ عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ الْكَرْخِيِّ قَالَ قُلْتُ لأبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) إِنَّ صَاحِبَتِي هَلَكَتْ وَكَانَتْ لِي مُوَافِقَةً وَقَدْ هَمَمْتُ أَنْ أَتَزَوَّجَ فَقَالَ لِيَ انْظُرْ أَيْنَ تَضَعُ نَفْسَكَ وَمَنْ تُشْرِكُهُ فِي مَالِكَ وَتُطْلِعُهُ عَلَى دِينِكَ وَسِرِّكَ فَإِنْ كُنْتَ لا بُدَّ فَاعِلا فَبِكْراً تُنْسَبُ إِلَى الْخَيْرِ وَإِلَى حُسْنِ الْخُلُقِ وَاعْلَمْ أَنَّهُنَّ كَمَا قَالَ. أَلا إِنَّ النِّسَاءَ خُلِقْنَ شَتَّى***فَمِنْهُنَّ الْغَنِيمَةُ وَالْغَرَامُ ‏وَ مِنْهُنَّ الْهِلالُ إِذَا تَجَلَّى***لِصَاحِبِهِ وَمِنْهُنَّ الظَّلامُ ‏فَمَنْ يَظْفَرْ بِصَالِحِهِنَّ يَسْعَدْ***وَمَنْ يُغْبَنْ فَلَيْسَ لَهُ انْتِقَامُ‏ وَهُنَّ ثَلاثٌ فَامْرَأَةٌ وَلُودٌ وَدُودٌ تُعِينُ زَوْجَهَا عَلَى دَهْرِهِ لِدُنْيَاهُ وَآخِرَتِهِ وَلا تُعِينُ الدَّهْرَ عَلَيْهِ وَامْرَأَةٌ عَقِيمَةٌ لا ذَاتُ جَمَالٍ وَلا خُلُقٍ وَلا تُعِينُ زَوْجَهَا عَلَى خَيْرٍ وَامْرَأَةٌ صَخَّابَةٌ وَلاجَةٌ هَمَّازَةٌ تَسْتَقِلُّ الْكَثِيرَ وَلا تَقْبَلُ الْيَسِيرَ.


3. A number of our people have narrated from Sahl ibn Ziyad Ahmad ibn Muhammad from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from all ibn Mahbub from Ibrahim al-Karkhiy who has said the following: “I once said to abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, ‘My wife who lived in complete harmony with me has died and I want to marry.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘Think where you want to place yourself and whom you are making your partner in your assets, inform of your religion and secrets. If you must marry find a virgin who is spoken of with goodness and of good moral discipline. You must take notice that women are as it is said: ‘Women are of various moral manners; among them are gains and losses. Among them are lawful when she shines for her companion and among them is darkness. Whoever succeeds in finding the righteous among them is a sure fortunate but one who is cheated cannot revenge. ‘They are of three kinds; one kind is a child bearing and loving who helps her husband all the time in the worldly as well as the matters of the hereafter and the world does not work against her. The other kind is woman who is barren without beauty and moral manners and does not help her husband in anything good, she is loud and noisy, roaming around and faultfinding who considers a great deal very little and does not accept things of lesser amount.’”


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Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi: مجهول - Mir‘at al ‘Uqul Fi Sharh Akhbar Al al Rasul (20/9)



4- مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى عَنْ سَلَمَةَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ سَمَاعَةَ عَنِ الْحَذَّاءِ عَنْ عَمِّهِ عَاصِمٍ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) النِّسَاءُ أَرْبَعٌ جَامِعٌ مُجْمِعٌ وَرَبِيعٌ مُرْبِعٌ وَخَرْقَاءُ مُقْمِعٌ وَغُلٌّ قَمِلٌ.


4. Muhammad ibn Yahya has narrated from Safmah ibn al-Khattab from Sulayman ibn Sama‘ah from al-Hadhdha’ from his uncle, ‘Asem who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ’Women are of four kinds: Goodness in all respects, a child bearing fountain, a dimwitted destructive one and feed for parasites.”’