5883 - وَ رَوَى اَلْحَسَنُ بْنُ مَحْبُوبٍ عَنْ أَبِي وَلاَّدٍ اَلْحَنَّاطِ قَالَ : سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اَللَّهِ جَعْفَرَ بْنَ مُحَمَّدٍ اَلصَّادِقَ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ عَنْ قَوْلِ اَللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ: "وَ بِالْوٰالِدَيْنِ إِحْسٰاناً" مَا هَذَا اَلْإِحْسَانُ فَقَالَ "اَلْإِحْسَانُ أَنْ تُحْسِنَ صُحْبَتَهُمَا وَ أَنْ لاَ تُكَلِّفَهُمَا أَنْ يَسْأَلاَكَ شَيْئاً مِمَّا يَحْتَاجُونَ إِلَيْهِ وَ إِنْ كَانَا مُسْتَغْنِيَيْنِ إِنَّ اَللَّهَ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ يَقُولُ: لَنْ تَنٰالُوا اَلْبِرَّ حَتّٰى تُنْفِقُوا مِمّٰا تُحِبُّونَ ثُمَّ قَالَ عَلَيْهِ اَلسَّلاَمُ " "إِمّٰا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ اَلْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمٰا أَوْ كِلاٰهُمٰا فَلاٰ تَقُلْ لَهُمٰا أُفٍّ" إِنْ أَضْجَرَاكَ "وَ لاٰ تَنْهَرْهُمٰا" إِنْ ضَرَبَاكَ "وَ قُلْ لَهُمٰا قَوْلاً كَرِيماً" وَ اَلْقَوْلُ اَلْكَرِيمُ أَنْ تَقُولَ لَهُمَا غَفَرَ اَللَّهُ لَكُمَا فَذَاكَ مِنْكَ قَوْلٌ كَرِيمٌ "وَ اِخْفِضْ لَهُمٰا جَنٰاحَ اَلذُّلِّ مِنَ اَلرَّحْمَةِ " وَ هُوَ أَنْ لاَ تَمْلَأَ عَيْنَيْكَ مِنَ اَلنَّظَرِ إِلَيْهِمَا وَ تَنْظُرَ إِلَيْهِمَا بِرَحْمَةٍ وَ رَأْفَةٍ وَ أَنْ لاَ تَرْفَعَ صَوْتَكَ فَوْقَ أَصْوَاتِهِمَا وَ لاَ يَدَكَ فَوْقَ أَيْدِيهِمَا وَ لاَ تَتَقَدَّمَ قُدَّامَهُمَا".
Hadith.5883 - Al-Hasan ibn Mahbub narrated from Abu Walad Al-Hannat that he asked Abu Abdullah Imam Jafar ibn Muhammad Al-Sadiq 
about the saying of Allah (swt), the Exalted: "And be good to parents."
He asked: "What is this goodness (ihsan)?"
Imam replied: "Goodness is to treat them well in companionship and not to burden them to ask you for anything they need, even if they are self-sufficient. Indeed, Allah (swt), the Exalted, says: 'You will never attain righteousness until you spend out of what you love.'"
(Surah AAl-E-Imran 3:92)
Then Imam said: "If one or both of them reach old age in your care, do not say to them 'uff' (a word of annoyance) if they irritate you, and do not repel them if they strike you, but speak to them noble words." The noble words mean that you say to them, 'May Allah (swt) forgive you both.' That is noble speech from you.
"And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy." This means that you should not fix your eyes on them with sharpness but look at them with mercy and compassion. Do not raise your voice above theirs, nor your hand above theirs, and do not walk ahead of them."
