154. Necessary Obedience to Husband

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1- عِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ خَالِدٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ الْقَاسِمِ الْحَضْرَمِيِّ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ سِنَانٍ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ إِنَّ رَجُلا مِنَ الأنْصَارِ عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) خَرَجَ فِي بَعْضِ حَوَائِجِهِ فَعَهِدَ إِلَى امْرَأَتِهِ عَهْداً أَلا تَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا حَتَّى يَقْدَمَ قَالَ وَإِنَّ أَبَاهَا مَرِضَ فَبَعَثَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) فَقَالَتْ إِنَّ زَوْجِي خَرَجَ وَعَهِدَ إِلَيَّ أَنْ لا أَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِي حَتَّى يَقْدَمَ وَإِنَّ أَبِي قَدْ مَرِضَ فَتَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أَعُودَهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) لا اجْلِسِي فِي بَيْتِكِ وَأَطِيعِي زَوْجَكِ قَالَ فَثَقُلَ فَأَرْسَلَتْ إِلَيْهِ ثَانِياً بِذَلِكَ فَقَالَتْ فَتَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أَعُودَهُ فَقَالَ اجْلِسِي فِي بَيْتِكِ وَأَطِيعِي زَوْجَكِ قَالَ فَمَاتَ أَبُوهَا فَبَعَثَتْ إِلَيْهِ إِنَّ أَبِي قَدْ مَاتَ فَتَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أُصَلِّيَ عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَ لا اجْلِسِي فِي بَيْتِكِ وَأَطِيعِي زَوْجَكِ قَالَ فَدُفِنَ الرَّجُلُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) إِنَّ اللهَ قَدْ غَفَرَ لَكِ وَلأبِيكِ بِطَاعَتِكِ لِزَوْجِكِ.


1. A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from ibn Khalid from his father from ‘Abd Allah ibn al-Qasim al-Hadramiy from ‘Abd Allah ibn Sinan who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said, ‘In the time of the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, a man left for a journey and instructed his wife not to leave her house until he comes back. He (the Imam) said that her father became ill so the woman sent someone to the Holy Prophet saying, ‘My husband has gone on a journey and has instructed me not to leave the house until he comes back but my father has become ill; if you command me to visit him and return home. 5 The Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, said, ‘No, you must stay home and obey your husband.’ He (the Imam) has said that her father’s illness became serious and she sent a messenger the second time asking, ‘If you command me to visit him.’ He (the Messenger of Allah) said, ‘No, you must stay home and obey your husband.’ He (the Imam) has said that her father died and she sent a messenger to him (the Messenger of Allah) if she can join in his funeral for Salat (prayer).’ He (the Messenger of Allah) said, ‘No, you must stay home and obey your husband.’ He (the Imam) has said that her father was buried and the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, sent her a message that said, ‘Allah has forgiven you and your father because of your obeying your husband.’”


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2- مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ عَلِيِّ بْنِ الْحَكَمِ عَنْ عَلِيِّ بْنِ أَبِي حَمْزَةَ عَنْ أَبِي بَصِيرٍ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) يَقُولُ خَطَبَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) النِّسَاءَ فَقَالَ يَا مَعَاشِرَ النِّسَاءِ تَصَدَّقْنَ وَلَوْ مِنْ حُلِيِّكُنَّ وَلَوْ بِتَمْرَةٍ وَلَوْ بِشِقِّ تَمْرَةٍ فَإِنَّ أَكْثَرَكُنَّ حَطَبُ جَهَنَّمَ إِنَّكُنَّ تُكْثِرْنَ اللَّعْنَ وَتَكْفُرْنَ الْعَشِيرَةَ فَقَالَتِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْ بَنِي سُلَيْمٍ لَهَا عَقْلٌ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَلَيْسَ نَحْنُ الأمَّهَاتُ الْحَامِلاتُ الْمُرْضِعَاتُ أَلَيْسَ مِنَّا الْبَنَاتُ الْمُقِيمَاتُ وَالأخَوَاتُ الْمُشْفِقَاتُ فَرَقَّ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) فَقَالَ حَامِلاتٌ وَالِدَاتٌ مُرْضِعَاتٌ رَحِيمَاتٌ لَوْ لا مَا يَأْتِينَ إِلَى بُعُولَتِهِنَّ مَا دَخَلَتْ مُصَلِّيَةٌ مِنْهُنَّ النَّارَ.


2. Muhammad ibn Yahya has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from Ali ibn al-Hakam from Ali ibn abu Hamzah from abu Basir who has said the following: “I once heard abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, saying that once the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, gave a speech for women and said, ‘O the community of women, you must give charity even if it is from your jewelries, a date or a piece of a date because the majority of you will be the fuel for the fire of hell if you frequently abuse and curse your associate (husband).’ A woman from banu Salim who had reason said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, we are mothers, who carry in our wombs and breastfeed. From us are daughters who highly value (parents and relatives) and kind sisters.’ The Messenger of Allah was moved emotionally and said, ‘Childbearing, birth-giving, breastfeeding and kindhearted ones, only if they do not bring to their husband’s (bed) something that will make them to feel the heat of fire (due to involving themselves in indecent acts).”’


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3- مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنِ ابْنِ مَحْبُوبٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ غَالِبٍ عَنْ جَابِرٍ الْجُعْفِيِّ عَنْ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ خَرَجَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) يَوْمَ النَّحْرِ إِلَى ظَهْرِ الْمَدِينَةِ عَلَى جَمَلٍ عَارِي الْجِسْمِ فَمَرَّ بِالنِّسَاءِ فَوَقَفَ عَلَيْهِنَّ ثُمَّ قَالَ يَا مَعَاشِرَ النِّسَاءِ تَصَدَّقْنَ وَأَطِعْنَ أَزْوَاجَكُنَّ فَإِنَّ أَكْثَرَكُنَّ فِي النَّارِ فَلَمَّا سَمِعْنَ ذَلِكَ بَكَيْنَ ثُمَّ قَامَتْ إِلَيْهِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْهُنَّ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) فِي النَّارِ مَعَ الْكُفَّارِ وَاللهِ مَا نَحْنُ بِكُفَّارٍ فَنَكُونَ مِنْ أَهْلِ النَّارِ فَقَالَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) إِنَّكُنَّ كَافِرَاتٌ بِحَقِّ أَزْوَاجِكُنَّ.


3. Muhammad ibn Yahya has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from ibn Mahbub from ‘Abd Allah ibn Ghalib from Jabir al-Juhfiy who has said the following: “Abu Ja‘far, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said that once on the tenth of the month of Dhul al-Hajj the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, moved out of the city of al-Madinah toward the backside of it on a camel without a saddle and passed by women, stopped higher than them and said, ‘O community of women, you must give charity and obey your husbands; the majority of you will be in the fire.’ When they heard it they wept and one woman from them stood up and asked, ‘O Messenger of Allah, will we be in the fire with the unbelievers? By Allah, we are not unbelievers to be punished and to become of the people of the fire.’ The Messenger of Allah said, ‘This will happen if you deny the rights of your husbands.’”


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4- ابْنُ مَحْبُوبٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ سِنَانٍ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ لَيْسَ لِلْمَرْأَةِ أَمْرٌ مَعَ زَوْجِهَا فِي عِتْقٍ وَلا صَدَقَةٍ وَلا تَدْبِيرٍ وَلا هِبَةٍ وَلا نَذْرٍ فِي مَالِهَا إِلا بِإِذْنِ زَوْجِهَا إِلا فِي زَكَاةٍ أَوْ بِرِّ وَالِدَيْهَا أَوْ صِلَةِ قَرَابَتِهَا.


4. Ibn Mahbub from ‘ Abd Allah ibn Sinan who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said, ‘A woman does not have permission with the existence of her husband to set free a slave, give charity, contract with a slave, give gift or make a vow in her assets without the permission of her husband except payment of Zakat or doing good to parents or keeping good relations with her relatives.”’


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5- عَلِيُّ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنِ النَّوْفَلِيِّ عَنِ السَّكُونِيِّ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) أَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ خَرَجَتْ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِ زَوْجِهَا فَلا نَفَقَةَ لَهَا حَتَّى تَرْجِعَ.


5. Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father from al-Nawfaliy from al-Sakuniy who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘Any woman who goes out of her house without the permission of her husband loses her right of maintenance until she comes back.’”


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