143. Words to Say during Conjugal Relation

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1- مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عِيسَى وَعِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ عَنِ ابْنِ مَحْبُوبٍ عَنْ جَمِيلِ بْنِ صَالِحٍ عَنْ أَبِي بَصِيرٍ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ رَجُلا وَهُوَ يَقُولُ لأبِي جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ إِنِّي رَجُلٌ قَدْ أَسْنَنْتُ وَقَدْ تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً بِكْراً صَغِيرَةً وَلَمْ أَدْخُلْ بِهَا وَأَنَا أَخَافُ أَنَّهَا إِذَا دَخَلَتْ عَلَيَّ تَرَانِي أَنْ تَكْرَهَنِي لِخِضَابِي وَكِبَرِي فَقَالَ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) إِذَا دَخَلَتْ فَمُرْهَا قَبْلَ أَنْ تَصِلَ إِلَيْكَ أَنْ تَكُونَ مُتَوَضِّئَةً ثُمَّ أَنْتَ لا تَصِلُ إِلَيْهَا حَتَّى تَوَضَّأَ وَصَلِّ رَكْعَتَيْنِ ثُمَّ مَجِّدِ اللهَ وَصَلِّ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ وَآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ ثُمَّ ادْعُ وَمُرْ مَنْ مَعَهَا أَنْ يُؤَمِّنُوا عَلَى دُعَائِكَ وَقُلِ اللهُمَّ ارْزُقْنِي إِلْفَهَا وَوُدَّهَا وَرِضَاهَا وَأَرْضِنِي بِهَا وَاجْمَعْ بَيْنَنَا بِأَحْسَنِ اجْتِمَاعٍ وَآنَسِ ائْتِلافٍ فَإِنَّكَ تُحِبُّ الْحَلالَ وَتَكْرَهُ الْحَرَامَ ثُمَّ قَالَ وَاعْلَمْ أَنَّ الإلْفَ مِنَ اللهِ وَالْفِرْكَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ لِيُكَرِّهَ مَا أَحَلَّ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ.


1. Muhammad ibn Yahya has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad ibn ‘Isa and A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn abu ‘ Abd Allah from ibn Mahbub from Jamil ibn Salih from abu Basir who has said the following: “I heard a man saying to abu Ja‘far, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, ‘I pray to Allah to keep my soul in service for your cause, I am an aged man. I have married a virgin young woman. I have not gone to bed with her as yet. I am afraid in bed on finding me of such age and the dye on my beard she may dislike me.’ Abu Ja‘far, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, ’When you are there ask her before approaching you to take Wudu’. You also should not approach her before taking Wudu’ and performing two Rak’at Salat (prayer). Thereafter, speak of the glory of Allah and say, “Allahumma Salli ‘Ala Muhammad xva ‘Ali Muhammad (O Allah grant Muhammad and his family a compensation worthy of their serving Your cause).” Thereafter ask her and others present with her to say A’min (O Allah grant his wishes). Thereafter say, ‘O Lord, provide her enough reasons to be kind to me, love me, be happy with me, grant me enough reason to be happy with her, bring us together in the best form of gathering, and the happiest kindness; You love what is lawful and dislike unlawful matters.’ The Imam then said, ‘You must bear in mind that kindness comes from Allah and hate comes from Satan so that people clash and dislike what Allah has made lawful.’”


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Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi: صحيح 2 - Mir‘at al ‘Uqul Fi Sharh Akhbar Al al Rasul (0/310)



2- عَلِيُّ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنِ ابْنِ أَبِي عُمَيْرٍ عَنْ أَبِي أَيُّوبَ الْخَزَّازِ عَنْ أَبِي بَصِيرٍ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَالَ إِذَا دَخَلْتَ بِأَهْلِكَ فَخُذْ بِنَاصِيَتِهَا وَاسْتَقْبِلِ الْقِبْلَةَ وَقُلِ اللهُمَّ بِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا وَبِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْتُهَا فَإِنْ قَضَيْتَ لِي مِنْهَا وَلَداً فَاجْعَلْهُ مُبَارَكاً تَقِيّاً مِنْ شِيعَةِ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ وَلا تَجْعَلْ لِلشَّيْطَانِ فِيهِ شِرْكاً وَلا نَصِيباً.


2. Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father from ibn abu ‘Umayr from abu Ayyub al-Khazzaz from abu Basir who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said, ‘When you meet your wife hold to her forehead and face al-Qiblah (al-Ka’bah) and say, ‘O Lord, in Your trust I have taken her (in marriage) and with Your words I have made her lawful. If You have destined for me from her a child, then make the child a blessed one, pious, of the Shi ’ah (followers) of the family of Muhammad and you must not make for Satan any share or portion in it (child).”’


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Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi: حسن - Mir‘at al ‘Uqul Fi Sharh Akhbar Al al Rasul (20/310)



3- مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عِيسَى وَعِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ عَنِ الْقَاسِمِ بْنِ يَحْيَى عَنْ جَدِّهِ الْحَسَنِ بْنِ رَاشِدٍ عَنْ أَبِي بَصِيرٍ قَالَ قَالَ لِي أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) إِذَإ؛ تَزَوَّجَ أَحَدُكُمْ كَيْفَ يَصْنَعُ قُلْتُ لا أَدْرِي قَالَ إِذَا هَمَّ بِذَلِكَ فَلْيُصَلِّ رَكْعَتَيْنِ وَلْيَحْمَدِ اللهَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ اللهُمَّ إِنِّي أُرِيدُ أَنْ أَتَزَوَّجَ فَقَدِّرْ لِي مِنَ النِّسَاءِ أَعَفَّهُنَّ فَرْجاً وَأَحْفَظَهُنَّ لِي فِي نَفْسِهَا وَمَالِي وَأَوْسَعَهُنَّ رِزْقاً وَأَعْظَمَهُنَّ بَرَكَةً وَقَدِّرْ لِي وَلَداً طَيِّباً تَجْعَلْهُ خَلَفاً صَالِحاً فِي حَيَاتِي وَبَعْدَ مَوْتِي قَالَ فَإِذَا دَخَلَتْ إِلَيْهِ فَلْيَضَعْ يَدَهُ عَلَى نَاصِيَتِهَا وَلْيَقُلِ اللهُمَّ عَلَى كِتَابِكَ تَزَوَّجْتُهَا وَفِي أَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا وَبِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْتُ فَرْجَهَا فَإِنْ قَضَيْتَ لِي فِي رَحِمِهَا شَيْئاً فَاجْعَلْهُ مُسْلِماً سَوِيّاً وَلا تَجْعَلْهُ شِرْكَ شَيْطَانٍ قَالَ قُلْتُ وَكَيْفَ يَكُونُ شِرْكَ شَيْطَانٍ قَالَ إِنْ ذَكَرَ اسْمَ اللهِ تَنَحَّى الشَّيْطَانُ وَإِنْ فَعَلَ وَلَمْ يُسَمِّ أَدْخَلَ ذَكَرَهُ وَكَانَ الْعَمَلُ مِنْهُمَا جَمِيعاً وَالنُّطْفَةُ وَاحِدَةٌ.


3. Muhammad ibn Yahya has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad ibn ‘Isa and A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn abu ‘Abd Allah from al-Qasim ibn Yahya from his grandfather, al-Hassan ibn Rashid from abu Basir who has said the following: “Abu Ja‘far, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, once asked me, ‘When one of you marries, does he know what to do?’ I replied, ‘I do not know.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘When he decides for it (marriage) he must perform two Rak’at Salat (prayer) then say, “O Lord, I want to marry so choose for me of women who is most chaste in matters of her private organs, most protective for me of herself and my assets, of most affluence in sustenance and of greatest blessing. Choose for me a fine child to be a virtuous successor in my lifetime and after my death.’” He (the Imam) said, ‘When you meet her place your hand over her forehead and say, “O Lord, according to Your book I have married her, in Your trust I have taken her (in marriage) and with Your words I have made her (private organs) lawful. If You have destined for me from her womb anything (child), then make the child a Muslim, upright and You must not make for Satan any share or portion in it (child).’ I (the narrator) then asked, ‘How can it be a share of Satan?’ He (the Imam) said, ‘Mention of the name of Allah keeps Satan away. If one goes to bed without mentioning the name of Allah, he sticks his penis, the act is from both of them but the seed is one.’”


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Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi: ضعيف - Mir‘at al ‘Uqul Fi Sharh Akhbar Al al Rasul (20/311)



4- عَنْهُ عَنْ أَبِي يُوسُفَ عَنِ الْمِيثَمِيِّ رَفَعَهُ قَالَ أَتَى رَجُلٌ أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) فَقَالَ لَهُ إِنِّي تَزَوَّجْتُ فَادْعُ اللهَ لِي فَقَالَ قُلِ اللهُمَّ بِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْتُهَا وَبِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا اللهُمَّ اجْعَلْهَا وَلُوداً وَدُوداً لا تَفْرَكُ تَأْكُلُ مِمَّا رَاحَ وَلا تَسْأَلُ عَمَّا سَرَحَ.


4. It is narrated from the narrator of the previous Hadith from abu Yusuf from al-Mithamiy in a marfu’ manner has said the following: “Once, a man came to ’Amir al-Mu’minin, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, and said, ‘I have just married, pray for me to Allah.’ He (the Imam) said, ’Say, 0 Lord, with Your words I have made her marriage lawful and in Your trust I have taken her (in marriage); O Lord, make her child-bearing, loving and not clashing in dislike, use what is found and not ask what to bring home (this and that).”’


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Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi: مرفوع - Mir‘at al ‘Uqul Fi Sharh Akhbar Al al Rasul (20/312)



5- عَلِيُّ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنِ ابْنِ أَبِي عُمَيْرٍ عَنْ أَبَانٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ أَعْيَنَ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) يَقُولُ إِذَا أَرَادَ الرَّجُلُ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَ الْمَرْأَةَ فَلْيَقُلْ أَقْرَرْتُ بِالْمِيثَاقِ الَّذِي أَخَذَ اللهُ إِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ.


5. Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father from ibn abu ‘Umayr from Aban from ‘Abd af-Rahman ibn ‘ A‘yan who has said the following: “I once heard abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, saying, ‘When a man wants to marry a woman he should say, “I authenticate my covenant with Allah which is: “maintain in a reasonable way or allow to go with kindness.” (2:229)’”


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Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi: حسن أو موثق 2 - Mir‘at al ‘Uqul Fi Sharh Akhbar Al al Rasul (0/312)