3. Excellent manners and kindness and the anger

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حدثنا الحسين بن سعيد عن محمد بن الفضل عن عذافر قال: سمعت أبا عبد الله عليه السلام يقول: إن الله ارتضى الاسلام لنفسه دينا فأحسنوا صحبته بالسخاء وحسن الخلق


1. Al Husayn Bin Saeed narrated to us, from Muhammad Bin Al Fazl, from Azafir who said, ‘I heard Abu Abdullah (asws) saying: ‘Allah (azwj) Chose Al-Islam for Himself (azwj) as a Religion, therefore be good companions of it with the generosity and the good mannerisms’.




عثمان بن عيسى عن سماعة قال: ذكر أبو عبد الله عليه السلام يوما حسن الخلق فقال: مات مولى لرسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله فامر أن يحفروا له فانطلقوا فحفروا فعرضت لهم صخرة في القبر فلم يستطيعوا أن يحفروا فاتوا النبي صلى الله عليه وآله فقالوا يا رسول الله: انا حفرنا لفلان فعرضت لنا صخرة فجعلنا نضرب حتى تثلمت معاولنا فقال النبي صلى الله عليه وآله: كيف؟ وقد كان حسن الخلق ارجعوا فاحفروا فرجعوا فسهل الله حتى أمكنهم دفنه


2. Usman Bin Isa, Ali Bin Al Numan, from Amro Bin Shimr, from Jabir, (It has been narrated) from Abu Ja’far (asws) having said: ‘Rasool-Allah (saww) said: ‘Had the good mannerisms been a creature which could be seen, there would not have been anything more beautiful a creature than it, and had evil mannerism been a creature which could be seen, there would not have been anything of more ugly a creature than it, and Allah (azwj) will Cause the servant of good mannerisms to reach the Level of the Fasting one, the standing one (for Salat at night)’.




علي بن النعمان عن عمرو بن شمر عن جابر عن أبي جعفر عليه السلام قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله: لو كان حسن الخلق خلقا يرى ما كان شئ أحسن خلقا منه ولو كان سوء الخلق خلقا يرى ما كان شئ، أسوء خلقا منه وان الله ليبلغ العبد بحسن الخلق درجة الصائم القائم


3. Ali Bin Al Numan, from Amro Bin Shimr, from Jabir, (It has been narrated) from Abu Ja’far (asws) having said: ‘Rasool-Allah (saww) said: ‘Had the good mannerisms been a creature which could be seen, there would not have been a more beautiful creature than it, and had the evil mannerisms been a creature which could be seen, there would not have been anything more ugly a creature than it, and Allah (azwj) will Cause the servant of good mannerisms to reach the Level of the Fasting one, the standing one (for Salat at night)’.




النضر بن سويد عن عبد الله بن سنان عن رجل من بني هاشم قال: سمعته يقول: أربع من كن فيه كمل اسلامه ولو كان ما بين قرنه وقدمه خطايا لم ينقصه ذلك : الصدق والحيا وحسن الخلق والشكر


4. Al Nazar Bin Suweyd, from Abdullah Bin Sinan, (It has been narrated) from a man from the Clan of Hashim (as) who said, ‘I heard him (asws) saying: ‘Four (characteristics), the one who has these in him, his Islam would be perfect, and even though there would be sins from what is between his head and his feet, that would not reduce it – the truthfulness, and the bashfulness, and the goodly mannerisms, and the gratefulness’.




فضالة بن أيوب عن داود بن فرقد عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام قال جاء اعرابي إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله فقال: يا رسول الله علمني شيئا واحدا فانى رجل أسافر فأكون في البادية قال: لا تغضب، واستيسرها الأعرابي فرجع إلى النبي صلى الله عليه وآله فقال: يا رسول الله علمني شيئا واحدا فانى أسافر وأكون في البادية فقال له النبي صلى الله عليه وآله: لا تغضب فاستيسرها الأعرابي فرجع فأعاد السؤال فاجابه رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله فرجع الرجل إلى نفسه وقال: (لا اسئل عن شئ بعد هذا، انى وجدته قد نصحني وحذرني لئلا افترى حين اغضب ولئلا اقتل حين اغضب وقال أبو عبد الله عليه السلام: الغضب مفتاح كل شر وقال: انه إبليس كان مع الملائكة وكانت الملائكة تحسب انه منهم وكان في علم الله انه ليس منهم فلما أمر بالسجود لآدم حمى وغضب فاخرج الله ما كان في نفسه بالحمية والغضب


5. Fazalat Bin Ayoub, from Dawood Bin Farqad, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah (asws) having said: ‘A Bedouin came over to Rasool-Allah (saww) and he said, ‘O Rasool-Allah (saww)! Teach me one thing, for I am a travelling man and I happen to be in the valleys’. He (saww) said: ‘Do not get angry’. And the Bedouin found it to be easy, so he returned to the Prophet (saww) and he said, ‘O Rasool-Allah (saww)! Teach me one thing for I tend to travel and I happen to be in the valleys’. So the Prophet (saww) said to him: ‘Do not get angry’. And the Bedouin found it to be easy, and he return and repeated the question, and Rasool-Allah (saww) answered him (as before). So the man referred it to himself and said (within himself), ‘I shall not ask about anything after this. I found him (saww) to have advised me and cautioned me, perhaps I would forge (a lie) when I am angry, and perhaps I would kill when I am angry’. And Abu Abdullah (asws) said: ‘Then anger is a key to every evil’. And he (asws) said: ‘Iblees (la) was with the Angels and the Angels used to reckon that he (la) was from them, and it was in the Knowledge of Allah (azwj) that he (la) wasn’t from them. So when He (azwj) Commanded for the Prostrations to Adam (as), he (la) was vehement and was angry. Thus, Allah (azwj) Brought out whatever was within him (la) by the vehemence and the anger’.




حماد بن عيسى عن ربعي قال قال: أبو عبد الله عليه السلام ليحيى السقاء: يا محيى ان الخلق الحسن يسر وان الخلق السئ نكد.


6. Hamad Bin Isa, from Rabie who said, ‘Abu Abdullah (asws) said to Yahya Al-Saqa’a: ‘O Yahya! The good mannerisms makes one cheerful, and the evil mannerisms makes one grumpy’.




المحاملي عن ذريح عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله: إذا أراد الله باهل بيت خيرا رزقهم الرفق في المعيشة وحسن الخلق


7. Al Mahamily, from Zareeh, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah (asws) having said: ‘Rasool-Allah (saww) said: ‘Whenever Allah (azwj) Intends good with a family, He (azwj) Graces them the sustenance in the life and excellent mannerisms’.




حماد بن عيسى عن الحسين بن المختار عن العلاء بن كامل قال: قال أبو عبد الله عليه السلام: إذا خالطت الناس فان أستطع ان لا تخالط أحدا من الناس الا كانت يدك عليه العليا فافعل فان العبد يكون منه بعض التقصير في العبادة ويكون له الخلق الحسن فيبلغه الله بخلقه درجة الصائم القائم


8. Hammad Bin Isa, from Al Husayn Bin Al Mukhtar, from Al A’ala Bin Kamil who said, ‘Abu Abdullah (asws) said: ‘Whenever you mingle with the people and if you have the capacity that you do not mingle with anyone except that your hand would be upper (more giving than taking), then do so, for the servant who happens to have some deficiency regarding the worship, and he would happen to have good mannerisms for him, so Allah (azwj) would Cause him to reach the level of the Fasting one, the standing one (for Salat), due to his mannerisms’.




حماد بن عيسى عن شعيب العقرقوفي عن أبي بصير عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله: أقربكم منى غدا أحسنكم خلقا وأقربكم من الناس


9. Hammad Bin Isa, from Shuayb Al Aqarquqy, from Abu Baseer, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah (asws) having said: ‘Rasool-Allah (saww) said: ‘The closest one of you to me tomorrow (in the Hereafter) would be the ones of best mannerisms, and would be the closest ones to the people’.




حماد بن عيسى عن ربعي عن الفضيل عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام قال: جاء رجل إلى النبي صلى الله عليه وآله فقال يا رسول الله: أي الناس أكمل ايمانا قال: أحسنهم خلقا


10. Hammad Bin Isa, from Rabie, from Al Fuzayl, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah (asws) having said: ‘A man came over to the Prophet (saww) and he said, ‘O Rasool-Allah (saww)! Which of the people is the most perfect of Eman?’ He (saww) said: ‘The best of them in mannerisms’.




النضر عن القاسم بن سليمان قال: حدثني الصباح عن زيد بن علي قال: أوحى الله عز وجل إلى نبيه داود عليه السلام: إذا ذكرني عبدي حين يغضب ذكرته يوم القيامة في جميع خلقي ولا أمحقه فيما أمحق


11. Al Nazar, from Al Qasim Bin Suleyman who said, ‘Al Sabah narrated to me, (It has been narrated) from Zayd Bin Ali having said: ‘Allah (azwj) Mighty and Majestic Revealed unto His (azwj) Prophet Dawood (as): “If My (azwj) servant mentions Me (azwj) when he is angry, I (azwj) shall Mention him among the entirety of My (azwj) creatures and I (azwj) will not Annihilate him among what I (azwj) will Annihilate”’.




علي بن النعمان عن عمرو بن شمر عن جابر عن أبي جعفر عليه السلام قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله: أيها الناس والله انى لاعلم انكم لا تسعون الناس بأموالكم ولكن بالطلاقة وحسن الخلق قال: وسمعته يقول: رحم الله كل سهل طلق


12. Ali Bin Al Numan, from Amro Bin Shimr, from Jabir, (It has been narrated) from Abu Ja’far (asws) having said: ‘Rasool-Allah (saww) said: ‘O you people! By Allah (azwj), I (saww) know that you will not be extending to the people with your wealth, but (do so) by being cheerful-one and of good mannerisms’. He (the narrator) said, ‘And I heard him (asws) saying: ‘May Allah (azwj) have Mercy on every cheerful-one’.




محمد بن سنان عن إسحاق بن عمار قال: سمعت أبا عبد الله عليه السلام يقول: الخلق منحة يمنحها الله من شاء من خلقه فمنه سجية ومنه بنية فقلت: فأيهما أفضل؟ قال: صاحب النية أفضل فان صاحب السجية هو المجبور على الامر الذي لا يستطيع غيره وصاحب النية هو الذي يتصبر على الطاعة فيصبر فهذا أفضل


13. Muhammad Bin Sinan, from Is’haq Bin Ammar who said, ‘I heard Abu Abdullah (asws) saying: ‘The morals are a Grant. Allah (azwj) Grants it to the one whom He (azwj) so Desires to from His (azwj) creatures. So from it is a trait and from it is by intention’. So I said, ‘So which one of the two is superior?’ He (asws) said: ‘The owner of the intention is superior, for the owner of the trait, he is compelled upon the matter which he has no capacity other than it, and the owner of the intention, he is the one who is patient upon the obedience, and he observes patience. Thus, this one is superior’.




بعض أصحابنا عن جابر بن سدير عن معاذ بن مسلم قال: دخلت على أبى عبد الله عليه السلام وعنده رجل فقال له أبو عبد الله عليه السلام: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله : الرفق يمن والخرق شوم


14. Some of our companions, from Jabir Bin Sudeyr, from Muaz Bin Muslim who said, ‘I went over to Abu Abdullah (asws) and in his (asws) presence was a man, and Abu Abdullah (asws) said: ‘Rassool-Allah (saww) said: ‘The kindness is a Blessing and the clumsiness is an inauspiciousness’.




ابن أبي عمير عن عبد الله بن سنان قال: قال أبو عبد الله عليه السلام: يا ابن سنان ان النبي صلى الله عليه وآله كان قوته الشعير من غير أدم ان البر وحسن الخلق يعمر ان الديار ويزيد ان في الأعمار


15. Ibn Abu Umeyr, from Abdullah Bin Sinan who said, ‘Abu Abdullah (asws) said: ‘O Ibn Sinan! The Prophet (saww), his (saww) staple food was the barley from without a sauce. The righteousness and the good mannerisms builds the households and increases in the life-spans’.




محمد بن أبي عمير عن علي الأخمشي عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام قال: إن حسن الخلق يذيب الخطيئة كما تذيب الشمس الجليد وان سوء الخلق ليفسد العمل كما يفسد الخل العسل


16. Muhammad Bin Abu Umeyr, from Ali Al Akhmash, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah (asws) having said: ‘The good mannerisms melt the sins just as the sun melts the ice, and the evil mannerisms spoil the deeds just as the vinegar spoils the honey’.




ابن أبي عمير عن هشام بن سالم عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام قال: اتى النبي صلى الله عليه وآله رجل فقال: ان فلانا مات فحفرنا له فامتنعت الأرض فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله انه كان سيئ الخلق


17. Ibn Abu Umeyr, from Hisham Bin Salim, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah (asws) having said: ‘A man came over to the Prophet (saww) and he said, ‘So and so died, and we (tried to) dig (a grave) for him, but the ground prevented’. So Rasool-Allah (saww) said: ‘He was of bad mannerisms’.




ابن أبي عمير عن حبيب الخثعمي عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله: ألا أنبئكم بخياركم؟ قالوا: بلى يا رسول الله قال: أحسنكم أخلاقا الموطؤن أكنافا الذين يألفون ويؤلفون


18. Ibn Abu Umeyr, from Habeeb Al Khash’amy, (It has been narrated) from Abu Abdullah (asws) having said: ‘Rasool-Allah (saww) said: ‘Shall I (saww) inform you with the best one of you all?’ They said, ‘Yes, O Rasool-Allah (saww)! He (saww) said: ‘Then best of you in mannerisms are the most caring, those who are friendly and are making up’.




ابن العباس عن ابن شجرة عن إبراهيم بن أبي رجاء قال: قال أبو عبد الله عليه السلام: حسن الخلق يزيد في الزرق


19. Ibn Al Abbas, from Ibn Shajara, from Ibrahim Bin Abu Raja’a who said, ‘Abu Abdullah (asws) said: ‘Good mannerisms (bring about an) increase in the sustenance’.